Have you ever had a conversation that lead you to see an issue in a different light? What changed? Your perception of it.
Our imagination is a powerful tool that we can use for better and for worse. Biologically we have a negativity bias to keep us safe; it’s more important for our survival in the wild to notice the threat than it is to carelessly enjoy the beauty around us. Alas, in our rather unnatural way of life these days, we are relatively safe from being eaten by predators or struck by lightning. We are in the empowering position to focus our attention towards thriving rather than on mere surviving. And this focus starts with how we interpret our world, it’s a question of what filter do we want to use? We all have empowering beliefs and limiting beliefs. We may be aware of some but most of our beliefs about our world are programmes that run in the depths of our unconscious mind. We can ask specific questions to bring those beliefs to light which is work that a coach specialises in.
But you can start with these three steps on your own:
1. Gratitude. Intentionally change your focus from what causes your suffering to what you appreciate in your world. The practice of gratitude and appreciation is a powerful tool for creating positive change.
2. Contrast. Know what you don’t want to know what you do want. If you know what you don’t want you can make choices that support what you do want instead.
3. Believe. Let your imagination free reign and allow yourself to believe that there actually is another way. Having an open mind will give you many more possible options to consider.
Tell me in the comments, what are you grateful for, what contrast has shown you what you prefer, what do you believe is possible for you?
And then have a look at this video to find out how those three steps have helped me along the way: